mia-the-leo:

belligerentbi:

ourladyofhalos:

why do [bi] people care so much about gay people caring for their m/w relationships… like it’s fine u do u and all that jazz but tumblr is so quick to call us biphobic when we don’t jump up and down when a bi person is with someone of the opposite sex

66% of bi people feel uncomfortable in LGBT spaces (only feeling a little or not at all included).

Bi women, especially, receive the brunt of this with such lovely terms as ‘breeeders, bihets, dick suckers, and cock lovers’ as well being told they are ‘fakers, jumping of trends, not really gay/queer, and since they have touched cocks they are undatable/gross/dirty/will leave for a cock’ (any statement involving a cock gets a +1 for also being transphobic).

If you don’t get how bi people might be uncomfortable with wildly varying reactions depending on the gender of partner might afftect bi people and how that plays into intra-community biphobia I’m afraid I can’t help you.

Furhter more these statements usually end up being dismissive of bi people’s bi-ness as a whole. 

“like honey just bec you have a bi pride pin on your backpack doesnt make your straight relationship any less straight.” 

Please note how this woman’s (it was aimed at a woman) bisexuality is reduced to owning a pin, the implication of course being this person isn’t really bi, and how it’s paired with the disparaging of the relationship this bi woman has.

“also while I’m mad: fuck that post that says “stop acting like it’s the end of the world when a bi girl ends up with a guy” “

Note, the post that prompted this was about actual living, breathing, real bi women, not characters. 

“ i don’t care if one of the people is bi, it’s a het relationship and it’s lazy writing and it’s a cop out

i mean way to make it fucking clear, again, that bi girls don’t give two shits about lesbians when it doesn’t directly benefit them and them primarily.”

Note, the flat out text that bi girls only matter at all when we work as representation for lesbian woman because a character for bi women just doesn’t mean anything. That bi characters are worthless as bi characters and don’t actually mean anything.

But you know what. If you know a bi person and you can’t find it in yourself to be happy thay are in a relationship that they are happy about that’s really on you for not being able to be a good friend or acquaintance.

With bisexuality/pansexuality/polysexuality comes a package deal. To support us, you have to support us when we’re in same sex relationships and opposite sex relationships. We are not here specifically to cater to those who would rather see us in same sex relationships over opposite sex ones. We love who we love, and if you want to say that you support us, you have to support us no matter what kind of relationship we’re in. You can’t say you support us if you cheer us on when we’re in a same sex relationship, then get pissed if a bi/pan/poly person is in an opposite sex relationship. That would just be hypocritical. ‘Bi’ means attracted to more than one gender. By definition, we can be in any kind of relationship we want and still be a part of the LGBTQ+ community because we experience same sex attraction. So please don’t imply that we are overreacting when biphobia is a very real issue.

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