thingsarentok:

okay so like,,, 

self harm is a coping method. alcoholism is a coping method. drug abuse is a coping method.

something being your coping method does not automatically make that thing good, okay, or above criticism. 

im not trying to be an asshole here- i have unhealthy coping methods too, believe me. but i need everyone to understand that “but its my coping method/but i use it to cope” is not a get out of jail free card to make everyone shut up about how awful something is.

you using x thing to cope does not magically make x thing okay. people are allowed to be upset about x thing, and talk about how awful x thing is, and be vocal about how x thing needs to stop.

i cant tell you how to cope, and theres nothing i can do to stop you from using something to cope. but please stop silencing and ignoring people who, for good reason, disagree with what you use to cope.

ESPECIALLY when that coping method has a high chance of actually hurting others- like grooming them into thinking abuse okay by portraying an abusive ship as romantic and fluffy, or triggering csa survivors when they see your untagged n/s/f/w daddy kink in sfw tags

“i x to cope” is not a free pass to hurt others, ignore/write off criticism, and tell people against your coping method that they are just whiny babies who need to stop being such haters