logical-deduction:

 i hate all this “cishet” hatred “they’re evil people who discriminate always” bullshit because i know one specific time where it blew up in someone’s face. 

i was at this lgbt group thing in my city (mostly trans* people, actually, but cis people of different sexualities as well) and this new guy came named chad. he sat in on the meeting, didn’t say much. we go around the room and say what pronouns we prefer, and he said “he/him/his”. at one point he said he was questioning his sexuality, thought he might be bi, and that’s why he came to the meeting.

honestly, i along with most people, assumed he was a cis guy. he was like 5’11, had a beard, and wore baggy sweats. 

he said he had always dated women, and i could tell some of the other people were judgey of him (because there was this ‘no cis-straight people’ policy that i understood but people there were also pretty bi-phobic). 

anyway, a trans* woman there said something about trans* issues (i think it was healthcare in prison, can’t remember) and chad disagreed with her on the issue. it wasn’t that trans* people should be in their identified gendered prisons, it was something specific. they went at it for a bit, and then another trans* person butted in and they got a little ticked when chad stood his ground. 

the other person who butted in said, “honestly, you don’t understand. you’re new, but you’re going to have to learn to respect the trans* community. i know you aren’t used to this kind of stuff. but we have very specific issues and you just can’t understand.”

then chad got really red in the face and said, “no, sorry, i just disagree on the issue.” and the trans* woman rolled her eyes at him. someone else started preaching to him saying, “i’m not trying to be mean, but you need to understand your privilege in this situation.”

chad was like, “i know a shit load about the trans* community, i just disagree on that certain issue.”

people were like, “you can’t really know though.”

chad asked why he couldn’t know, his face really red.

and someone chuckled, “well, you have cisgendered white guy privilege.”

chad honestly flipped. he got up and said “i’m leaving. that’s why i never come to these fucking things. the trans* community sucks and i hate it (people stared angrily at him). i came here because im questioning my sexual orientation. i was also assigned female at birth, but i didn’t come here to talk about that. i was named emily at birth, i can show you my fucking birth certificate if you’d like. i went through an entire transition starting at age 14. i do not identify as a transgender. im just a guy trying to live as a guy. but i do fucking understand all about trans* issues because i lived through them and now im trying to get away from them. maybe that’s wrong of me, but that’s my choice, and now i come here and feel victimized because you fucks don’t know my past.”

and he left, and everyone felt awkward. nobody talked about it after, but it made me look differently at the cishet-hate bullshit i heard and saw on the internet. 

don’t victimize individuals. don’t do it. it’s dangerous.